Have you ever felt like the victim in a circumstance? Someone who was the receiver of some kind of injustice? Has someone or some group of people wronged you in such a way that you feel there should be some type of retribution? I hear you. I don’t know if we can go through life without feeling this way at some point.
This kind of thing can happen at work, at home or in the community. Someone does something to you that you deem to be wrong and you just cannot believe someone would betray you like that! You would never do anything like that to anyone else so how could someone possibly think they should do that to you? Perhaps something has been stolen from you, you have lost your job or you were overcharged for something. These things are really hard to take!
If we think there is something we can do about it sometimes we will. Perhaps we will dream up or even set up situations where we can “be heard”. I have done this. I remember once Blaine and I, very early on in our marriage, were in town at a dance and he was off with his friends and left me sitting with people I didn’t really know well. I’m sure I was in good company but I was shy and uncomfortable and I became angry. I decided to get the neighbor to give me a ride home without telling Blaine I was leaving. That was a pretty crazy thing to do. For a while I even felt it was the correct thing to do. After all, I had been told you can’t let people treat you like that!
We say that actions speak louder than words. I believed that to be true at one time and now I am starting to realize that words are much more powerful than we think. Being vulnerable and feeling and expressing our emotions is powerful too! What if I had actually sat down with Blaine and explained how I was feeling? Better yet what if I was able to sit down with myself and come to terms with what I was feeling? Looking back now I would say that I was feeling like I didn’t fit in, afraid that no one would like me, that I was in a situation I did not feel comfortable in and I was afraid. What if I just sat quietly with those feelings and started to recognize that those thoughts around my insecurities were coming from my own past experiences and that they were simply not necessarily true in this situation. I had decided that I was not worthy, that I was different, that I was not a strong and independent person. These thoughts were bringing up some really strong emotions. What if I had sat with those emotions and processed them and found out that what I really needed was someone to talk to my human self that felt hurt and wounded? She needed someone to recognize her fears and tell her that it was all going to be okay. Fortunately I found a best friend in Blaine. For 35 years he stood beside me as my husband and he built my confidence and my self esteem. He challenged me to stand up for myself and I have so much gratitude for that because I know I wouldn’t be who I am today without it. Even though he has left this earth, I have those words of encouragement in my ears, letting me know that I can do this. I have also realized that not only is he there but he has helped me open up to an entire team of angels and guides who I now know have also been cheering me on for my entire life! My higher self - my spirit self is telling me that we got this. There is nothing to fear but fear itself! I am still discovering this in new ways every day.
Another example for many of us might be the airlines right now. At Christmas time our family was stranded at the airport in Calgary unable to get out to the Island for Christmas. It felt like a huge injustice. They have denied their responsibility in it and so therefore I have been trying to find ways to explain my situation in a way that they might hear me and provide remuneration. Facebook has pages devoted to this. These people are angry. Some are going to small claims court to try to get retribution and some are using other means. An airline lost all my parents luggage on our last vacation together. It has never been returned and quite possibly never will. It seems all so unjustified.
There are a lot of things like these that happen to us for what seems like no good reason. What are we to do about it? Do we fight? Do we just let it go? What if we do both? I have had a lot of time to ruminate over these experiences. Trying to come up with some particular lesson to be learned or answer to be had. I have learned that these answers don’t come from thinking through them. These answers come from feeling through them.
If you have things going on in your life that make you feel like the victim, write them down. Get them out in the open and then start to go through them. Explore the emotions around them. Taking the time to feel the full range of emotions and the thoughts that are producing them can give you clues and clarity moving forward. If there is something you can do about your situation that is proactive and makes sense, then great. Take action knowing your intention is to do it in a space of love and respect for yourself and others. If there is someone that can help you or something that you can do to help yourself then I encourage you to follow that. If there does not seem to be a viable solution then give that up to your team. Believe it or not we all have a team of angels, guides and ancestors that are just waiting to help you but the catch is you have to ask! We all have free will and so we will have to choose whether we want their help or not. Don’t forget a crucial step is to give them permission to do what they need to do for the highest good of all involved. Once you have done that, take back your peace and your joy and move on with your life in the best way you know how. I believe there is no true injustice in this world that won’t be reconciled in time. All is here for us, not against us. Believe that everything is unfolding perfectly in your favor. There is nothing more you need to do. Trust that letting go of your control and getting out of your own way will bring about a more favorable outcome. No one knows you better than your higher self. That perspective is much broader and more all knowing than we can comprehend. You are always guided, protected and dearly loved.
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